– The “fixer” is wanting to do anything to aid the “fixee”. The fixee becomes influenced by the fixer to solve their dilemmas.
– The fixee does not place work into increasing by themselves, for themselves. They could make changes that are temporary will return straight straight straight back. They feel insecure as a result of it. They feel more serious about by by themselves and away from defensiveness may blame the fixer for his or her struggles that are continued.
– The fixer gets frustrated during the not enough progress since they worry. They might have the fixee is not as invested in their own enhancement and locate that to be selfish. The fixer feels unappreciated and hurt being the only person setting up work whilst getting blamed for wanting to assist. All of this builds resentment which they remove from the fixee.
– This cycle of insecurity, resentment, attacking, and not enough change continues. Continue reading